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I love beautiful sunny days and I love rain. Both evoke different emotions and allow me to get in touch with different parts of myself. Sometimes I only choose to feel the sun on my skin while at other times the rain will penetrate my soul. The truth is – I choose how deep to go. The same is with emotions; we either let them briefly touch us on the surface while some of them shake us so deeply that after certain experiences we are never ever the same.

Sunrays and Shadows is about following your inner voice and being true to yourself. It’s about self-growth, fun, connection, love, relationships, mess-ups and all sorts of experiences that make us imperfectly perfect human.

Inga

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What You Feel Isn’t Always Real

“Until we have met the monsters in ourselves, we keep trying to slay them in the outer world. And we find that we cannot. For all darkness in the world stems from darkness in the heart. And it is there that we must do our work.”

― Marianne Williamson

I felt so angry the other day that I was literally fuming and, until I looked into it, I didn’t even know what I was angry about. An earlier version of me would have just stayed with the anger assuming that how I feel is how I feel and there’s nothing I can do about it.

However, what I’ve learnt about emotions over the last few years – they can be very misleading and often tell us (in words) how to perceive situations, what to believe about ourselves and others and even urge us to take action (and that action won’t usually be something that’s good for us, even though it will feel like it in that moment). Now, all of this happens unconsciously so unless you know what to look at, you won’t see it.

The thing is that once you learn what those emotions tell you then you see for yourself whether they’re true or not. In my case, that anger was telling me to cut people off, to walk away from something that I felt conflicted about and to be self-righteous.

As I’m sure you can imagine, doing any of the above wouldn’t have lead me anywhere worth being. As I deconstructed the story that was going on I realised what was really happening and what a load of nonsense I was telling myself. Yet, it felt sooooo real…. No wonder most people buy into their emotions and then act from that space. Yet, the trick is to go higher and look at the other side of the story.

There’s always something higher within you that wants you to rise above limitations and assess situations from that point of view. You have the power to choose what you give your energy to. And as I did that, the anger dissipated within minutes. I was also able to see the truth that represented itself and solved the situation at hand in a relaxed manner.

And the best part was that there was no real conflict, I created it in my head. Therefore, not being influenced by my emotions and reactions that stem from those emotions is what I call real freedom. It takes some effort to be able to do that, but it really is transformational. And the more you practise the easier it gets. 🙌🏻💖🦄 #magicisreal

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